We Have the Right to Be Who We Are Part II

My mentor and my bishop, ArchMatrona Ghrian, studied under a Madrian priestess and was a devout Orthodox Filianic before founding her own Lady of Light Chantry, a Tradition which, while staunchly Deanic, is based upon the Nordic culture of her ancestral mothers. And so, we have a clear understanding of what the Deanic/Filianic religion is and what it is not.

In the past, I probably should have left the Filianic religion if I couldn’t accept the religion for what it was. But for some reason, I could not bring myself to do that. There was too much about it that I loved. .

When I found the Chapel, I not only found Our Divine Mother God,  I also found the inherent celebration of femininity within the religion and within the scriptures; a femininity that has been so crushed since the Eclipse. I found values similar to my own. And so, despite my misgivings about certain aspects of the Faith, I knew I was home. But, I wanted to ‘re-decorate’ my new religious home… drastically… to make it fit in with what I thought it should be.

As I stated in my Humble Admission post,  I had no right. This was a religion that was not of my design and creation. The scriptures were not mine to re-write. The authors of the scriptures are still alive. They have chosen to remain anonymous so that the scriptures might speak for themselves. And the way the religion was created is perfect. Each part blends beautifully with the rest.

Each religion has its own inherent culture. Catholicism, the denominations of Orthodox Christianity, Judiasm, Hinduism, Buddhism, all have their own underlying culture. A religious culture is what helps to make a religion strong, vital and meaningful to their devotees. A religious culture is only wrong when it is forced upon those who do not wish to participate or when it is harmful to others.

We have, within Filianism and within our own sister Traditions of Janites and Luciennes, our own culture. Part of that culture is a celebration of femininity and all that is feminine. We realize this culture is not for everyone and that’s fine. But, that does not mean that we have to change or police our own culture because others find it to be objectionable.

We are certainly not all 50’s era wives and many of our devotees would take great exception to being put under that umbrella. Some of us have traditional marriages, yes. Others are in lesbian or intermorph relationships. Still others might be in more unconventional relationships or marriages.  However, if a devotee is a 50’s era wife, that is her choice and we uphold her right to that choice. It is one that is respected and honored by us just as all relationships should be respected and honored.This personal relationship style should be a threat to no-one.

If we choose to share about our marriages or our relationships with others of our female community, we have a right to do so without being disparaged by others. We try to create a safe online community where we may feel free to be ourselves.

As both feminist and non-feminist members of the JOP, those of our Tradition believe that we do not have to sacrifice our femininity in order to have equal rights with men.

The bottom line is, as I have learned the hard way: we do not have to change who we are, nor do we have to change our religion or our scriptures in order to please everyone else. I have tried to do that in the past and it did not work for me. Others have tried it and it did not work for them.

And yes, our customs include dressing in a feminine manner, with dignity and modesty. (Not meaning people have to wear skirts to their ankles.) We celebrate femininity and beauty and gentleness and politeness.  The Lucienne and Janite traditions include the custom of veiling (wearing a head scarf, mantilla or hat), for symbolic reasons, during our rites. These are our own ways and we do not expect those outside of our Traditions, to follow them.

No-one is being prevented from starting their own Deanic religion. And, there are those who have. There are different forms of a Deanic religion. A Deanic religion simply means a religion that recognizes the Divine Feminine as Supreme Being. Shaktism and Dianic Wicca immediately come to mind.

But, a Deanic religion that is based upon our scriptures, our Creed, and the teachings of the Madrians and Filianists means certain things.

What really surprises me, I think more than anything, is that those who have been the most wrathful about our decisions for the Janite Tradition do not now, nor have they ever, belonged to the Janite community. Not a single one of them.

The Janites are who we are. The Luciennes are who they are. The Filianists are who they are. The Madrians were who they were. If someone wants to start a Deanic religion where men may be clergy or where femininity is not an aspect of their custom and culture more power to them, but that is not who we are.

So, in summary: with our desire to have a feminine only clergy, it is not because we believe males to be spiritually inferior, it is because:

1) As Janites, we believe that females best channel the Divine Feminine in a feminine religion. We believe that our communion rite is a Feminine Mystery.

This is similar to many Wiccan religions who have the female priestess channel the Great Goddess while the male priest channels the God  (including those Traditions where there is a communion rite rather than a symbolic fertility rite).

There have been some Goddess Christian groups where there are male and female priests: the female priest(ess) channels the Divine Feminine and the male priest channels the Divine Masculine during the communion rite.

We understand that many won’t agree with this belief either, but they don’t have to. This isn’t about the beliefs of others; it is about our beliefs. We are not asking anyone outside of Janite Tradition to accept them.

2) We agree with the following statements as found on the Chapel website:  “In Western societies there is a tendency, if power is not placed firmly in feminine hands, for a feminine devotion to become very patriarchal and to end up as a power-game for male egos.

But the Feminine Congregation of Dea will always be very important to us. Our personal spirituality is inherently a feminine spirituality.

For us and for many women, past, present and future, that will always be so.  www.mother-god.com/feminine-spirituality.html. End of Quote.

What we believe should be of no concern to those who are not Janites. We speak for ourselves and for no-one else. We understand that our Tradition, our culture, our customs and a feminine religion are not for everyone, nor are they intended to be.

But, to those who find value in it, no matter what gender they may be, that is wonderful, as long as it is clearly understood that this is an inherently feminine religion.

We hope that we have made our position clear.

Thank you.


ArchMadria Candra Sophia


107. Who shall celebrate the Sacrifice?

The spiritual head of household shall celebrate the Sacrifice.

108. Who is the spiritual head of the household?

Either the mother, or else the temporal matriarch, or any other maid who has made a solemn undertaking to act as spiritual head of her household.

109. Who shall celebrate if she is absent?

Either her eldest daughter, or any other maid whom she has chosen to act as her surrogate. (The Madrian edition of the catechism.)

(Here maid means female member of the hestia.)





We Have a Right to be Who We Are Part I


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Part I revolves around Ekklesia matters.

Part II involves more personal matters.

Dear Friends,

This is not a response to any one person. This is a response to recent conversations amongst several blogs and tumblr posts. It also covers several areas, hence it’s length.

First of all, let me make clear that we are not saying that men and women are not spiritually equal. Of course we are equal! I have four sons and four grandsons along with the most wonderful husband in the world. Of course I believe that my husband, my sons and my grandsons are spiritually equal to females. And, all are children of Dea.

We are only stating the fact that the Filianic/Deanic religion is a feminine religion; something that has been stated many times by our fore-mothers.

We are not planting any ‘seed’ for the future; we are simply one Tradition which follows the Madrian teaching of a female-only clergy and we follow the Chapel’s and Lucienne’s prerogative of having female-only  groups, such as our Deanic Ladies group.

Having a female-only clergy and a female spiritual head (or mistress) of the household for a feminine religion is to be found in the Madrian edition of the catechism .

The duty or role of the female in a Janite hestia (home), just as it states in the Madrian edition of the catechism, is to serve as the spiritual head or mistress of the household. This means that she is to conduct the Rite of Sacrifice and the holy days for her family. If there is no female in the household, I have been told by Mr. David Kay, that the male may serve the Sacrifice. However, males may not be clergy.

And so, again, because I can’t emphasize this enough, the idea of a female-only clergy and a female spiritual head or mistress of the household are Madrian teachings, the teaching of our fore-mothers, not our own. (1) Keep in mind that this is in reference to a clearly feminine religion. 

It is the duty and role of the female, as priestess of Ekklesia or as mistress of her hestia, to serve the sacred rites for a feminine religion. 

If a feminine religion is not being practiced in the household, then there is no need to have a female spiritual head of the household. (A. M. Candra Sophia). 

Our homes are sacred. They have been blessed and consecrated to Dea. And so they become hestias. Taken together, these hestias form the body of Ekklesia in addition to (84) all souls who are in communion with the Goddess (Dea) and heras, Geniae (Janati/Janyati), and other souls, both incarnate and disincarnate. (86). The catechism, where these questions may be found, also states that Ekklesia exists on every plane of being.

As mentioned in a previous post, while the mistress of the hestia has the duty to offer the Rite of Sacrifice for her household, the priestess offers the Great Liturgy for Ekklesia and for all of Dea’s children.

Future public congregations don’t really come into question for us at this moment in time, as the Divine Feminine is traditionally worshiped in the home.

As it is now, in Janite Tradition, the priestess may serve a private liturgy in her hestia; one that is offered for Ekklesia and for all of Dea’s children. She may also invite devotees into her hestia for liturgy.

A mistress of an hestia may invite the local priestess to serve liturgy for her household and invited guests.

Initiation rites may also be served in the hestias by a local priestess or by the mistress of the hestia.

    I’m not sure that I would like to see these practices expanded into public chapels, temples or churches in the future. My own feeling is that these more organized, public settings always seem to face the danger of eventually becoming patriarchal. This has happened time and time again. If the religion is hestia-bound, there is less chance of this happening. (A. M. Candra).

We highly recommend, for those who are interested in our religion, to read, “The Feminine Universe” by Miss Alice Lucy Trent. www.mother-god.com/ancient-wisdom.html. Next to our scriptures, this is the most important book of our religion.

Please also see the full description of the Gospel of Our Mother God: http://www.mother-god.com/gospel.html where it states: It is not a “feminist spirituality” text. The myths and sutras in The Gospel of Our Mother God are purely feminine. No male figures appear at any point.

   This is not a compilation of current thought with a “spiritual” tinge, it attempts to reflect pure and very traditional religion in its feminine form – the form in which religion first appeared on this earth. If you are seriously seeking real feminine devotion, this could be the most important purchase of your life. End of quote.

Elsewhere on the CMG the Gospel of Our Mother God is described as the bible of the feminine religion.

We understand that there has been quite a controversial stir over our decision to become more Orthodox in our views. While we maintain that this is our right, it is vital to remember that we do not speak for others, only for ourselves.


Clarification on Our Customs


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O, Madria Sofia, Jana of Intelligence, Intuition and Wisdom, may the Pure Stream of Your Virtues flow within me, in this world and in all the worlds to come. Blessed are You.


Dear Devotees,

We have readers and members of the Sisterhood who are not of the Janite Tradition. Some readers might be Madrian, others are Filianic, Auroran, Lucienne, etc. We also have male followers of our blog. Additionally, the JOP Sisterhood includes Madrians and Aurorans.

As such, we do not expect everyone to follow Janite customs. For instance, when I announce the Rite of Sacrifice for the Full Moon each month, it is a Janite and Lucienne custom to veil (wear a scarf or hat) during our rituals.  We had also expected males to wear some type of religious hat, so this custom was not just for females.

For us, as Janites, it is an highly symbolic gesture in honor of Our Lady. It is part of our ‘religious garb’ if you will.

I have written extensively about veiling during our rites in the past and so, I will not repeat this here.

Just because a religious custom is right for Janites does not mean it is right for everyone. Nor do we expect it to be. And that goes for all of our religious customs and ways.

And so, when I or Madria Rosalie are giving specific instructions for our rites, rituals and holy days, they are intended as instructions for the Janite Tradition only, especially for our clergy and those in priestess training. Others may feel free to adopt them or not, as they wish.

Even Janite devotees, who are not clergy, are not fully obligated to follow our customs outside of our future chapels/temples.

I hope this clarification is helpful.

Thank you,

ArchMadria Candra Sophia

Weekly Prayer List

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For the healing of Rosie,

For the healing of Alix,

For the help of Gregg,

For the healing of S.,

For the healing of M.,

For the guidance of E.,

O, Most Holy Dea, Mother, Daughter and Great Mother, have mercy upon these, Your souls and may they attain mental, physical and spiritual health. May those who have passed beyond the Veil be assumed, through Your Holy Daughter, unto Perfect Union with You.  Through the Pure Stream of Your Grace, may all events unfold for their highest good and according to their True Soul Path.

Let us bless the Holy One,

Blessed is She.

Let us thank the Seven Janati of Power,

Thanks be to the Seven Janati.

My Daughter is Home–personal post

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O, Madria Vicka, Jana of Courage, Strength and Valor, be with us.

May the Pure Stream of Your Virtues flow within me, in this world and in all the worlds to come.


Dear Sisters,
   My daughter has been living abroad in different countries for almost nine years, now. Before that, she went to school in Colorado and did a semester abroad in Australia and visited Fiji. She has spent the last three years in Asia, teaching university students in both Thailand and Taiwan. She was in the Peace Core in Kazakhstan, taught in Russia and Poland and has visited Istanbul and most major cities in Europe.
She is a strong and courageous young woman, because her time abroad has often been fraught with extreme difficulties and sometimes, downright danger.
Now, she is finally coming home. We have missed her so much.
This was her fb post:

When I was 18, my Dad took me on my first plane ride across the country to Colorado to check out a potential university. As we flew over each State, I felt my world becoming bigger and bigger, and my home town becoming smaller and smaller. Colorado was stunning, immediately capturing my heart. What seemed so crazy to me at the time was that a State five hours away by plane could feel so foreign from where I grew up. 

On our last day as we were checking out of our hotel, I felt anxious. Colorado was so far from my home, from my family and friends; could I really move there to live for the next 4 years?  At that moment, I picked up a post card from the check-out desk. Slowly turning it over in my hands, I read the quote, “The world is a book, and those who do not travel read only a page.” – St. Augustine.  That was it. That was my sign (I still have that postcard).

I left home for Colorado at 19, and have since traveled to many places in the States, have lived and worked in 6 countries and have traveled to many more, and have taken hundreds of flights. Needless to say, I have filled my book with the most enriching chapters. The places I’ve been, people I’ve met, and all my experiences have shaped me into the woman I am today, someone much different from the 18 year old small town girl reading that post card back in Colorado.  I feel so very blessed to have had the opportunities I’ve had, and I have nothing but gratitude in my heart.

As I close my chapter in Taiwan, I head back to my hometown, to my roots, to where it all began. I look forward to being welcomed home by family and friends, people who’ve loved me my whole life, and have had to put up with my coming and going all these years.

I’m not quite sure what’s ahead, but that’s always been the most exciting part of the journey. Thank you to everyone I’ve met along the way who have played a character in my book, teaching me the very lessons I’ve needed to get to where I am today.

And now dear friends, it’s time to go home. ❤️ Alexandra Slayton

And, I have just found out that she is home. She just landed in San Francisco.
Welcome home, Alix! I’m so proud of you. We have missed you, so much!



Where there have been recent changes in the direction of the Janite Tradition, the following is our new, succinct, About Page:

We are a Tradition of the Deanic/Filianic feminine Mystery religion which was founded in the early 1970’s. It is based upon the oldest religion known to humanity, that of our Divine Mother God.

Deanic (Day-anic) means of Dea, of the Mother God. Filianic means of the Daughter. Both are the same basic religion using the same scriptures, but with a different emphasis in worship and practice.

There is much evidence that the religion of Our Mother God stems back over 20,000 years, if not longer. Ours is but a modern interpretation of this most ancient Faith.

We worship Dea, in Her Triple form of Mother, Daughter and Great Mother or Absolute Deity.

The Divine Feminine Trinity may be found in Shaktism. The Divine Mother and Daughter have sources in Sophian, Greek and certain Kabbalistic writings.

We also honor the Seven Powers or Seven Faces of Dea in their angelic form, known to us as the Janati or Janyati.

The Janite Order of Priestesses and Sisterhood is open to women over the age of 18. Our worship and feast days are family oriented.

For more information, please contact ArchMadria Candra Sophia at deanicfaith@gmail.com or Madria Rosalie at hearthofheid@gmail.com.

We also have a new Deanic Ladies Community. If you are interested in joining, please contact Madria Rosalie at the above email.

For further reading from a Filianic perspective, please see http://www.mother-god.com/.

May Our Lady bless you,

Blessed is She.